It was one of those days, after one of those months, that I stumbled across a book that reminds me why I am alive. That book that I stumbled across was called “The Heart of the Soul” by Gary Zukav and Linda France. The first sentence, in the first paragraph, on the first page stated “the longest journey that you will make in your life is from your head to your heart.” I instantly knew this book was about to speak volumes for me. So it began on that day, at the end of a month that broke down many of my walls I have created around my “life”.
Wow, the deep infinite wisdom and truth that one sentence has to offer. What does that mean head to heart, heart to head? It is an inner struggle of balance that we all underlie with. By doing what we know is right or what we think is right? Or by doing what our heart speaks and often screams in a most triumphed voice? The heart always knows the answer; it is the head that tells it to quiet.
Why is that? Because the heart is full of feelings, emotions, a pulsation that moves the current inside us, it is what moves our blood. It is what starts our life and ends our life.
When you stop feeling, when you stop loving, you stop listening to your heart, you essentially become dead.
What is profound is that the majority of us are dead. We avoid the heart because the heart is the keeper of memories and holds emotions and emotions have the tendency to be painful. Why do we avoid emotions, why do avoid pain, why do we think as a human race that hurt is unacceptable? It is not okay to be sad or angry. People are looked down upon for having angry outburst which underneath the anger is hurt.
As a society we scrutinize and degrade those who we call murderers, killers, which by no means is okay, but where we fail as a society is to look at and see that they are humans that have suffered severe pain, agony, hurt, distrust, abuse, abandonment. They are so buried by these emotions that they are unable to see the light. They do not know how to access the pain, how to heal it, how to make it go away, all they know is that the pain in the heart has taken over any sort of love or light they might of had for life. Every human has been in the place at least once in their life where they have felt unseen, unheard, unvalued that they lost the will to live. It is a dark lonely place. These people have spent years on years of being in this place every day of their life that the weight of their heavy hearts becomes a place of hate, anger, and rage. The heart becomes dead and they are no longer able to contain any amount of joy. All they see is black and blacker shades of darkness.
What would happen if for one day we forgave these people, for they are humans that got struck down by the world? Some from the time they were born, their upbringing of drug addicts, abuse, molestation, starvation on every level. This was their first experience in the world. What if for one day you imagined what it would be like to live in their shoes and simply say, “Hello, I see you. I am sorry you had to live a life that you never felt love, ever. I am sorry that you were made fun of all day at school where you had your only meal while being made fun of for being poor, and then went home and was locked in your room all night and beaten by your dad who told you were a waste of life at the age of eight. I am sorry.” What if for one day you stopped and asked them “how are you? Truly?” And instead of judging them you heard them. You heard their anger, hate, sadness. You heard their pain. What if for that one day that person felt some sort of relief. That for once in their life they were seen, they were allowed to express their pain, pain just like you have. That pain that becomes so full in that vessel called your heart that it can become explosive, and unfortunately so explosive that sometimes it comes out at the end of a pistol into someone else’s heart, either deserving or undeserving.
What if you actually asked and listened to them? You heard their story. You allowed them to have a voice. Do you think that would have changed them, if even for that one day? To actually be given a chance to let the anger out. Could you do this without judgment? To allow another human, a soul, to feel and instead of sending them hate; you sent them love. How do you think that would affect them? Maybe they wouldn’t act out in rage that day, maybe it could save not just their life but another. What if someone gave you the opportunity to speak your story, to voice your hurt?
We as a society have become so numb to ourselves that we can’t even see the pain in someone else’s eyes. We see them as a disgrace, and as far as a waste of life. We keep our hearts deadened so we don’t feel their pain, for it is a mirror of our own denial to ourselves.
The heart holds emotions, and the emotions can be painful, hard to look at, unbearable to access. But the heart also holds joy, love, compassion, laughter, ability to care for another, amusement, passion. How many times have you failed to listen to your partner speak because you couldn’t stand hearing their emotions, because you wouldn’t allow yourself to access your own? You are not only denying yourself to access your heart, but you are denying their power to access their own heart and keeping them from loving you.
As scary as it is to live in your heart; it is even scarier not to.
If you could start to open your heart again and remember that we are all human beings trying to make it in this life and for once support each other, AND allow you to be supported. How different your, (our), world could be, if we started living through our hearts instead of our heads. If for one minute out of every day you went from your head to your heart and allowed yourself to see, hear, connect, hug someone. Tell someone you love them and you believe in them. Imagine how amplified with love your heart would feel, imagine how amplified with love they would feel. Imagine if we did this every day, all of us, imagine the shift that would occur in this world. To open your heart is to start allowing feeling into that vessel again. To feel the greatness of love again, the love for yourself and another.
The way the world has operated for the last 100 years is changing; changing to a place where we need to start connecting, helping, supporting, and, bottom line, we need to start caring about other people. The only way to do that is to allow yourself access to your heart, validate your feelings, allow yourself to start forgiving others, and most importantly start forgiving yourself. The heart only bleeds if you don’t give it what it needs to heal.
The universe needs you to start nourishing the pulse of your own heart, the vessel that is made of you, you were not meant be deadened by the world, you were meant to shine in the light of you; you are meant to be ALIVE.
The greatness of your future is a reflection of your past. It is an evolution. It is an evolution of your heart.
Pulsating, vibrant, love filled heart.
Thank you for listening, Melissa Windell